Saturday, April 29, 2017

The Hypocrites That Are "Feminists"

When you take the effort to Google the word feminism, the definition, “Feminism is a movement to uplift women to same level as that of men” is sure to crop up.

And I’m very sure, the first question that’ll pop in your mind is, “Hey, isn’t feminism the same as equality, then? Then why is it called feminism? Why isn’t it called equality, instead?”

This is because, my dear reader, women haven’t reached the same level of equality as that of men. Which is why, it is called feminism.

When the movement kicked off in the 20th century, feminism seemed like the ultimate concept for female liberation — bra burning, not adhering to the standards mandated by the society… Ah, these rebellious ideas seemed so cool, so thrilling, eh?

But now-a-days, feminism isn’t about equality anymore.

It’s become this fashionable word that so many people wish to associate themselves with, just because they happen to be under the misguided notion that women are superior to men and also because they want to feel intelligent and oh-so-evolved from the rest of the masses.

Do these “feminists” actually care about equality?

Nah, trivial matters like equality aren’t of importance when it comes to these extraordinarily mature feminists.

You know what matters to them?

Creating a huge fuss over incessant issues under the giant umbrella that is called feminism.

Case in point: Emma Watson’s posing for a magazine’s cover shoot, dressed "inappropriately” 

When Emma Watson posed for Vanity Fair, little did she know that she would receive severe backlash just because of what she wore!

Emma Watson, who strongly campaigned for the core essence of feminism (#HeForShe, remember?), was slammed by many for not being modestly dressed and being a hypocrite!

Isn’t the core of feminism about having the freedom to present yourself the way you want to be presented? Is it always mandatory that feminism has to be about not wearing bras and being frumpy all the time?

If these are the standards dictated by the so-called evolved “feminists”, what is even the difference between them and the conventional societal norms?

***

Another aspect I’ve observed in these self-proclaimed “feminists” is the fact that they expect their men to do everything for them, treat them specially.

I have literally heard some of these feminists say, “Oh, I am a feminist. I expect my husband to treat me well and to listen to everything I say.”

Did these brilliant feminists say, “I’d like to treat my husband as well as he treats me and listen to him the way he listens to me.”?

That would be a big fat N-O.

Oh, dear reader, when I heard those misandristic sentences from those evolved feminists, I literally stormed out of the room to control myself from lashing out.

Now, there would be someone  who’d say, “Oh, but women have worked so much for so many years. Don’t they deserve to rest and let the men care for them?”

My answer to that is another big fat N-O.

Why?

If women work for their livelihood and let men do the housework, then it would just kick off the same cycle in reverse.

Hundred-two hundred years down the line, a movement called meninism will kick off.
And this meninism is not the current bullshit misogynistic movement, but a movement that’s a replica of feminism, only with the aim to uplift the men to the same level as that of women.

So tell me, what difference would it make, really?

Instead of one gender taking the load off the other, wouldn’t it be more prudent that both the genders divide their work and duties equally, based on what each gender is good at and maintain an equilibrium?

For example, in a married couple where both the genders are working, they can distribute their workload at home equally (and based on what each gender is good at). And instead of one person looking after the other, both can look out for each other and treat each other as special.

I know it sounds rather idealistic but isn’t this method better than whining to create the same age-old cycle-for-gender-equality-stuggle all over again?

***

And last (but the most burning one, lately): double standards.

Now-a-days, a lot of “feminists” think it’s hunky dory for them to make the same mistakes as their male counterparts. And if their male counterparts do it, they’ll not act hunky dory.

Instead, all hell will break loose.

Like, the other day, one of my friends showed me an article regarding “I Cheated On My Husband and I’m Not Sorry” or something like that.

Now tell me, why are you not sorry for cheating on your husband? Why are you not sorry for breaking a bond that you (hopefully, if you are a sane human being) thought through at length? Why are you not sorry for putting your husband through hell after he spent so much time loving you?

Infidelity is a big, big mistake.

It doesn’t matter what your gender is.

If you’re a man who cheated on your wife, you have to be accountable for it. Same goes for a woman: if you’re a woman who cheated on your husband, you’re accountable for it.

I know, the society is harsher towards cheating wives than cheating husbands. But if you made a mistake, you are accountable for it, there are no in-betweens.

***

Ultimately, feminism is about the power of choice.

It isn’t a movement where women are considered better than men and are ‘pressured to do things which men only can do.”

It is a movement where every human being, regardless of what gender he/she belongs to, gets to have the right to choose to lead the life they want to lead.

If only these hypocritical self-proclaimed feminists, would realise that, then it would do a great service to the rest of the world and it would stop tainting the image of the whole feminism movement.

With this, I say goodbye, with hopes of a better gender-equality-positive world.

Stay awesome as ever,

Much love,

Archie <3

Friday, March 31, 2017

The Balloon Theory

STATUTORY WARNING: THIS POST IS NOT ONE WHERE I SAY THAT I AM THE GREATEST HUMAN BEING ON EARTH. IF YOU THINK IT'S A NARCISSISTIC RANT, THEN LEAVE AND STAY UNHAPPY FOREVER, YOU JERK.

Lately, I've been doing a lot of thinking

Now don't you dare to say - oh, Archie, but don't you always think

You should instead ask, "What exactly are you thinking, Archie?" 

Well, I've been brainstorming a lot over happiness. How our own happiness is often not dictated by us, but by a lot of other materialistic things and... people

I mean, think about it.

Like, some of us will only be happy if we do an internship/get a job at a big Fortune 500 company. Some of us will be only happy if we take up something that gives us prestige. Some of us will be only happy if we run away from our current environment to some place unknown and start anew. 

Oh, and the most glaring example of all: Some of us will be only happy if we have the person that we love the most. 

What's most common in these situations is the fact that we are latching our happiness not to us, but to something else - the loss of which, would make us unhappy. 

If our internship with that big company ends, we become sad. If we get fired from that Fortune 500 job, we become upset. If we end our leadership term that gives us prestige ends (or worse, is taken away), we become morose. If we run away to some place and are forced to come back, we become mopey and wistful. 

The worst of all: if we lose that person we love the most, we become devastated.

Why this sadness? 

It's because our reason to stay happy isn't to have that emotion of happiness for a continued period of time. Our reason for happiness is based on a myriad of other emotions - pride, love, arrogance. 

Image result for balloon tumblrIf you think about it, our happiness is like a balloon. It's a bright, shining balloon that often gets tied to different things, emotions and people.

At the beginning, these things/emotions/people only inflate your happiness by blowing more air into your balloon. 

And then...

Suddenly, before you even realize it, they release the air by untying the balloon's knot - or even worse, making the balloon burst suddenly and spectacularly. 

After that, my dear reader, you're left all alone and are dying in abject agony. 

***

So the whole point of my spiel is this: is it really worth it to make other factors a focal point of your happiness? Is it really worth getting all these laurels and all these people in your life if you're not truly happy?

Wouldn't it be much better if you tied your balloon of happiness to yourself and nurtured your happiness for simply being happy? Wouldn't this self-love make your life a much simpler and healthier space?

Think about it. 

Stay awesome as ever,

Much love,

Archie <3 

Sunday, January 29, 2017

Rise

One, two, three,
The verdict's out,
And you are free,
From the anticipation of anxiety;

But it's not what you'd hoped,
And you're now left to cope -
With a loss,
Of the greatest magnitude;

At first, you see not the pitying stares,
You hear not the words of comfort;
You only feel,
Absolute emptiness; 

After a while,
The reality sinks in,
You - who had the most radiant of smiles -
Finally break down and cry;

You despair, 
Over how miserably you've fared; 
You blame the entire universe -
For conspiring against you; 

Then your mind begins to feed,
You with fierce, formidable fears,
Of not being able to succeed,
In the task you just miserably failed in; 

Then a while later,
You realize,
That time is a prize,
A treasure not intended to be wasted,
On wasted tears,
Or irrational fears;

Slowly, you rise,
Shakily at first,
Then growing firmer,
As you take the next steps;

Then, without looking back,
You give your all -
Hard work, passion and grit,
To see that you finally get what you've always wanted; 

And then in the end,
The verdict's finally out,
And you are free,
From the anticipation of anxiety;

But it's better than what you'd hoped,
And you're now left to cope -
With a victory,
Filled with greatest joy,
And a deepest sense,
Of utmost satisfaction; 

***

Well, it's already a month into the New Year and you (probably, if you follow my blog regularly) must be wondering, "Why hasn't Archie updated her blog with a '16 Things I Learned In 2016'?"

So, after a lot of contemplation and musings, I decided to write about the most important lesson I'd learnt last year - failure. 

Last year, a lot of my friends couldn't clear an important competitive exam after nine freaking months of slogging. And mind you, these people were some of the most brilliant classmates I've ever had.

To see their dejected faces and sense of disorientation made me really, really unhappy

And then, in November, when I was in Germany, I came to know that I'd flunked one of my extra course's exams and that's when the sense of failure really, really, really hit me. 

But somehow, instead of moping around, I got to know about the next exam dates and I started prepping up for it.

Deep down, I was terrified about the exam. There were times when I thought, "Oh why the hell am I doing this now? What if I fail? Again?" 

Yet, a bigger part of me was, "Wait, you've loved this language since a pretty long time, haven't you? You've spent hours and hours learning it, haven't you? Then what's stopping you NOW?" 

With these mixed emotions, I gave the exam and...

I PASSED! 

So, all in all, I'd like to say this:

Failure is horrible. It's scary and when it happens to you, you feel like you've been punched really badly in the stomach and you feel like the entire universe is conspiring against you.

But that doesn't mean you have to be DEFINED by it. 

After you've licked your wounds, you have to get up, work your ass off and know what you're made of. 

And believe me, a girl who's had to face endless rejections and bombed auditions, failure is only going to make you bounce back higher and higher. 

So do not let your failure dictate your entire being. Stand up, work a hundred times harder and finally, you'll get what you've always wanted.

So in conclusion, I'd like to wish y'all a very happy New Year! Have a fantastically fantastic year ahead! Don't get bogged down by failures and keep - well, what else can I say? - hustling! 

Stay awesome as ever,

Much love,

Archie <3

Tuesday, November 22, 2016

On Finally Going To Deutschland

 Pehli baar ek hi baar aata hai! (The 'first time' experience comes only once in your life) - Amitabh Bachchan in English Vinglish 
The first thing that would come to your mind is: 

Why is Archie (who's been a very tardy blogger lately) beginning this blog post with a very oh-so-filmy quote? 

Well, it's because I (finally) got a chance to go to Germany for a radio project after endless days of dreaming, wishing, hoping and despairing.


Which is also why I haven't been a very regular updater of this blog. 

Also there's the fact that I've been very tardy and I feel like the content I'm coming up is shit.

Never mind that. 

The thing is, after I'd posted last, I got busy with the tickets, visa appointments and the entire packing frenzy. 

Every single day went from the constant messages with "Congratulations, dear! I'm so proud of you!" to the even more regular drilling of "It's going to be very cold in Germany, you have to wear really warm clothes - thermal innerwear, a shirt, a sweater, a scarf and a really warm jacket." 

On the eve of my departure, I was bombarded with a ton of instructions from my parents, grandparents, uncle and aunt.

"Always be in warm clothing!" My uncle, who often travels all over the word, instructed. "Always, always wear a scarf! You'll be really cold otherwise!"

"Always keep your passport safe!" My parents and grandfather hissed. "Always, always keep your passport safe! If you lose your money or your belongings, it's FINE! Your passport is your identity! If you don't have a passport, you'll be in deep trouble, young lady!"

"For once in your life, please eat the food that they give you." My grandmother said sternly. "You won't be able to have your way there, you brat!"

"Keep a spare set of clothes and toiletries in your hand luggage in case you don't get your baggage!" My aunt advised. "But most importantly, have fun."

With all these instructions weighing and the incredible amount of excitement building within me, I went to sleep that night. 

On 29th October, the day I left, I literally couldn't contain my excitement. 

The fact that it was Diwali barely registered my mind. My heart was beating, Deutschland, Deutschland, Deutschland. and I kept thinking, "This is it! This is it! I'M FINALLY GOOING!"

Plus, the fact that we were travelling to Munich via Helsinki, Finland was all the more exciting.

The beautiful yet cozy Helsinki airport
Because let's face it: Helsinki - as beautiful as it is - is a pretty rare destination for Indians - who only have the topic of foreign countries restricted to the main hubs in central Europe, the US, Australia and the trio of Singapore-Thailand-Malaysia.


Helsinki at its finest! <3
But when I arrived at Munich airport, a day later, I really wasn't feeling that... hunky dory.

Oh, no, no! It wasn't the traditional, "I'm halfway across the world and I'm going to miss my family!"

It was the fact that I was having this strong urge to...

Throw up.

Although I would love to endlessly describe the thoughts I had while I was nauseated, I really don't want to gross you out and tell you, clear and simple - Yes, I did throw up all over my garish sweater.

Did I feel better?

Not much, honestly.

Even afterwards, as we were on the way to the hostel in Possenhofen, I couldn't quite muster up the excitement that was evident on everyone's faces.

The only time I got a bit excited was when I saw this:

Yup, the famous Allianz Arena - all shaky thanks to my shivering fingers
Then, as we reached, we were immediately assigned with our roommates. After the initial rounds of Hi-Helloing with my roommates, I rushed to take a long, hot bath. Once I'd doused myself in the warm water, I finally felt like a human being, not the zombie I was since I'd retched.

Later, we had to go to the Seminar room downstairs for our 'Icebreaking Session'. This involved randomly chatting with one person, chatting about each others' lives and then introducing each other in front of everyone else.

Yes, it does sound a bit daunting.

But in all honesty, it was a lot of fun! We really got over the initial awkwardness, got to know all the general things about each other and by the end of the session, we were comfortable enough to start working with each other.

From the next morning, the main workshops began.

Every day, in the workshops, we were first given a background on what radio journalism is about. After which, we were assigned with tasks, that involved experimenting with radios. One day, it would be simply reading a transcript in front of the microphone or it would be conducting surveys with all the Germans in the vicinity of the hostel and in the village. On another day, it would be conducting interviews and then we were introduced to the basics of sound mixing.

Personally speaking, I really enjoyed the workshops. It helped me to be comfortable in speaking coolly in a language that wasn't my native one. Moreover, it also made me be more confident in interacting with people who I hardly knew before.

So by the time the last day - the Sightseeing Day - rolled in, I felt more self-assured than what I'd felt in years.

On this day, we went to visit the Radio Station Gong and got a first-hand experience of the dynamic, fast-paced working atmosphere there.

We were shown how they constructed radio programs, the importance of advertisements and how they run their entire program. In the end, we got a chance to ask questions and damn, that was an informative session!



Thought I'd better take this pic of Beyonce 'coz she's the Queen B, right?


After the Radio Station visit, we got a chance to move around Munich. We were split into groups based on our preference for places.

I was one of those who went to the Frauenkirche (literally: the church for women, reality: anybody can go in).

When I stepped inside, I realised that this church was one of the most beautiful places I'd been to.

It was a majestic room filled with delicate candelabras, intricately created statues and richly-made paintings. At one corner, there was a table (sort of) filled with candles in the honour of the dead. And at another corner, there was the tomb of a revered priest.

Can't you SEE how detailed it is?
The candles lit in the memory of the dead. Some people were actually insensitive enough to take photos of themselves lighting the candle. I mean, who even does that?
The tomb - which is often used as a photo opportunity by many tourists.
Once we stepped out of the Kirche, we were free to roam around wherever we liked in Marienplatz.

WHAT A BEAUTY! <3

The Rathaus - The Main Government Building

The Spielzeug Museum

The Famous Galleria Kaufhof/Kaufhaus
Marienplatz <3
But you know what the best part about the whole trip was, dear reader?

I got to meet really amazing people, from starkly different cultures, out of which, I made some really close friends (just in a matter of the week).

At first, it was a bit awkward. Because hey, we're all so different and how would we manage to overcome the said differences so fast?

Yet, by the end of the week, (as cheesy as it sounds), we'd become this close-knit family.

It was because, everyday after the workshops, all of us used to gather together and decide what we'd do for the evening.

Sometimes, we would go to the breathtakingly beautiful lake nearby and click a crazy amount of photos there.
Can you see the Alps in the background?



Don't jump, or else the swan will bite you!

Aand here I am, channeling my Khatron Ke Khiladi spirit
And the other times, all of us would gather in the seminar room and play a lot of different German, Austrian and Indian games. Once, we were in a wicked mood, we decided to tell each other ghost stories.

It's another story that I barely could sleep that night and I had to read pages of Princess Diaries to get myself over the paranoia.

All in all, I would say that the whole trip was a wonderful experience. I loved every bit of it, especially the lessons I'd learnt to the friends I'd made and the feeling of responsibility I had over my things.

I guess the best lesson I'd learned was this:

Even you don't get the thing you desire, don't worry! If it's in your fate, it will definitely come to you.

As preachy as it may sound, dear reader, but never, ever lose hope. Sure, things might seem a bit hard at the moment, but don't feel dejected all the time. You will always get what you deeply, deeply want, as long as you work hard for it.

(If it's the end of the world, then shut up, you idiot. What you need is an appointment with a psychiatrist)

Stay awesome as ever,

Much love,

Archie <3

P.S. Sorry for the long post! :/

Monday, October 17, 2016

Here's Who You'll Meet When You're A Part Of A Club In Your College

Dear reader, in a quest to dare to do something different, I decided to immerse myself in the college extracurricular activities. 

This involved volunteering for the college festivals, participating in oratory competitions (including a mentally scarring debate debacle) and of course, college clubs. 

My college, being the 76-year-old establishment that is, houses about 40-50 odd clubs (or forums, as we say here) and in these past two years, I've worked for around 3-5 of them. 

There are many reasons why clubs are really helpful.

For one, you really get to push yourself out of your comfort zone and do things that challenge you. Secondly, you get to work on your soft skills and learn how to manage your time/tasks efficiently. 

The third and the most important reason why clubs are really beneficial is because you meet people. Loads of them. 

And this post, dear reader, is exactly about those people. 

So without further ado, let's begin, shall we?

1. The Wise Owls 

If your club even has one wise owl, you're sorted. Seriously. 

The Wise Owls are members who have had an extremely enriching experience in handling club activities. They are the ones who know everything.

By everything, I mean EVERY SINGLE THING. 

Which authority are we supposed to approach? They'll take you to those authorities along with them. 

What are the ways to promote a new activity? They'll be the ones who'll come up with the smartest strategies. 

What if a crisis comes while you're conducting the said club activity? Don't worry at all! These wise owls will see to it that the crisis is smoothly averted! 

Like one person (actually me) wisely said, "Blessed are those who have a wise owl guiding them towards enlightenment." 

2. The Incredible Dependables 

The Incredible Dependables (pardon the new word coined) are those people who you can have sheer blind faith in. 

You know why? It's because they're THAT dependable and awesome. 

They are enthusiastic, supremely creative and you know, you just know - they are going to make it big with their sheer zest for life.

They'll be one of the first ones to finish a task and one of the people who'll wait back till the very end until everything is sorted. 

3. The Inspiring Demigods

This type of member is as rare and exclusive as its name. 

The Inspiring Demigods are those who literally work ten times harder than you and work for almost every single forum out there, with incredible amount of enthusiasm for each activity. 

The best part about these demigods is the fact that they are very down-to-earth and approachable. They aren't going to turn up their noses when they see you fumbling. They are actually empathetic and they really do help you out. 

In a way, you could say they're this fine hybrid of the Wise Owls and the Incredible Dependables. 

Which is why, they are pretty freaking terrific.

4. The Know-It-Alls-Who-Don't-Know-At-Alls

Now, at this point in my article, I'd like to divert your focus to the "not-so-happening" people, beginning with the know-it-alls-who-don't-know-at-alls. 

These people are the ones who attend the club meetings once in a blue moon and they come only for a very few events.

Instead of being wholly enthusiastic, they are the ones with the maximum amount of problems. 

They'll be quick to point out, "This isn't right! I'd said something but nobody gave a damn about me!" 

Now tell me, how are we supposed to give a damn about your opinion, if you're just sitting in one corner and being so negative, instead of, you know, ACTUALLY HELPING OUT?!

But then again, these people are still helpful because they make you work extra harder on the "flaws" and improve the way your club's run. 

5. The Mercurial Hotheads 

It is common knowledge that whenever you're participating in any activity, there is a high chance that you are going to come across people that are... 

Very mercurial

One minute, they are absolutely hunky dory. The next, they start sprouting fangs and yelling their heads off at you and leave you wondering, "Is there something wrong with them?" 

And then when you're contemplating to throw them into a mental asylum, they start behaving normally again.

Keeping their moodiness aside, the Mercurial Hotheads I've gotten to work with are some of the coolest people ever. Moreover, working with them has made me try to present my arguments in a much better manner. 

6. The Queens/Kings Of Paranoia 

To put it simply, they are the Meena Kumaris of the club. 

They are the ones who constantly keep worrying, fretting and desperately hoping that things would go well. Even the slightest disorder can be equal to a devastating natural disaster. 

So, a word of advice: tread a bit carefully around them. Otherwise, you'd end up getting a first-hand experience of the human personification of Niagara Falls. 

7. The Indignant Lazy Bums

You know the pinky-pinky hippopotamuses who loll around lazily until they get provoked all of a sudden and become batshit crazy? 

That's how the Indignant Lazy Bums are. 

You'd rather expect pigs to start flying rather than expecting a Lazy Bum to work. You'd rather expect Martians to land on earth and end up creating their colonies here than expect the Lazy Bum to work. Hell, you'd rather expect Kim Kardashian to end up becoming a nun than expect the Lazy Bums to work. 

But when you even do something as hint that the Lazy Bum hasn't been working, then - 

One. Two. Three. 

Then the Lazy Bum bursts out, "OH! HOW CAN YOU BE SO CALLOUS AND RUDE? HOW CAN YOU SAY I DIDN'T WORK, DUDE! I TOTALLY STAPLED THE TWO SHEETS OF PAPER YOU'D TOLD ME TO!" 

And so it goes on. The Lazy Bum, who's never as much as lifted a finger to help the rest of the slogging club members, talks about all the 'hard work' he/she has put in and how it is a gross injustice on your part to question that hardwork so 'callously. 

After which, you think, "Wow, it would have been soo much better to have kept my mouth shut." 

***

With this, I sum up my strange observations in the 'club culture'. I hope you could relate to any one of the types mentioned above and I really hope you liked it! 

Stay awesome as ever,

Much love,

Archie <3

Sunday, September 4, 2016

An Open Letter To All The "Lonely" People Out There

Hi there. 

I see no purpose in beginning this letter with niceties because I know what you're going to say: 

You're going to begin by saying how nobody in your family understands you. Then, you're going to move onto your friends and moan about how they don't "get you needs". After which, you're going to end with a note that you have no real friends and you're just a poor, poor lonely soul. 

But, my darling friend, have you ever bothered to consider that you might be the problem? 

Oh, now don't start with the theatrics and hear me out, will you? 

I like to believe that there are two types of lonely people - lonely people by circumstances and lonely people by their own behaviour and outlook

Lonely people by circumstances are those who try hard to mingle with others but are scornfully ignored. 

Lonely people by their own behaviour, on the other hand, are those who have everything - a rock solid family, an amazing group of friends and are materialistically secure. But they are dissatisfied with the fact that their social circuit isn't functioning as per the way they want them to function. 

Which means, you, my dear friend, fall into the second category. 

I don't know how you began being this self-made lonely person but having seen some of my peers like you closely, I have come to a realization that initially, you started off as a lonely person by circumstances. 

But unlike the other lonely people by circumstances, you decided to keep the same old outlook of yours. You chose to keep your problems about your adamant family members to yourself. You chose to chase after the same people who ruthlessly shunned you. As a result of which, you ended up becoming a laughing stock. 

You did not choose to discuss your problems with your family members in a mature light. You did not choose to change your friend circle or change your perspective on the kind of friends you wanted.

You only chose to have that fixed thought: "My family doesn't understand me at all. I don't like these friends of mine because they never sought me out first." 

If that's not downright stupid, I don't know what is. 

And then, when the other, so-called popular people ignore you, you end up crying about your life and how miserable it is and end up blaming everyone (from your family to your friends to your God)

Excuse me! You don't have the right to blame others for the miserable situation you put yourself into! It's ultimately your fault that you shunned the ones who actually cared about you and ran like a pathetic rat after people who didn't give a damn. It's your fault that you refused to change your mindset or behaviour and remained static. It's YOUR FAULT THAT YOU CHOSE THIS LONELY LIFE!  

Now, I know you're going to respond with a haughty: "Why should I change my mindset? Weren't you the one who always said, 'Embrace your individuality'?" 

Well, here's my answer for that: 

When I say 'embrace your individuality', I mean to say 'Embrace the good things about yourself'. I don't mean to say, keep a narrow-minded, popularity-lusting mindset, get hurt as a result of it and blame others. And I most certainly did not say to keep your bad personality attributes intact! 

We are all flawed individuals. There are certain flaws, like the flaws in our looks and the flaws of our surroundings, which we can do little to change. But the flaws we have in our personality - the flaws which can only hamper our mental well being and the well-being of others - are the ones that we need to work out on. 

I know it's not easy to work out on the issues you have, my friend, but taking the first steps towards a positive change in your personality and thinking that makes all the difference. 

So talk to your family members. Let them know calmly about what you like and you don't like. Listen to them patiently as they list out their side of the story. Then, talk to all those friends of yours, who you initially thought weren't good enough for you. Shower them with the same amount of love that they gave you. 

Most importantly, let go of your oh-so-esteemed standards about the person you are going to consider as your dearest confidant. Unfortunately for you, people aren't made in the way you want them to function. If you really are desperate for a friend who fits your ideals perfectly, then I'd suggest you make a robot, instead of criticizing the ones around you. 

But a mechanical robot too, would get boring after a point of time, wouldn't it?

Mon ami, if you continue to keep your high-and-mighty thoughts about your ideal kind of people, then you're going to be lonely your entire life. And no one, but yourself, is the one to be blamed. 

With this, I bid you adieu. 

Good bye. I hope you become a better person. 

Love,

Archie 

***

Hi there, dear reader. 

So, the idea for this post came up as a result of my two mad, adorkable best friends - Butter and Fraud, with whom I've spoken at length about loneliness and people who are lonely as a result of their own behaviour. 

With this post, I did not mean to purposefully HURT people for being lonely. My only point was to make some people realize that they are lonely because THEY are the ones who are the root causes of their loneliness and not someone else. 

Well, I think I've said enough for now.

Stay awesome as ever, 

Much love,

Archie <3

Friday, August 26, 2016

#Uninspired

Mixed verse.

Staring at your laptop,
Chewing your fingernails,
Wondering why your ideas now fail,
Waiting for creativity to magically crop;

You remember the times,
When words wove into,
Meaningful, deep quotes,
And soulful, dreamy rhymes;
                                                                    
You remember the endless praises,
That were bestowed,
You remember how,
You used to feel so superior, so hallowed;

And now, as you stare,
At the empty word document,
You can’t help but feel,
Blankness mingled with resentment;

You look around a bit,
To find something,
That’s so thought-provoking,
Something that you deem as fit;

You go through your Facebook Newsfeed,
A bit desperate, a bit frantic,
‘Cause Facebook’s a place,
Overflowing with people’s crazy antics;

You are tempted to throw,
A nasty shade, masked by lyrical words,
Just so some idiots get sense,
Into their overly inflated heads;

But then you stop,
Let out a deep sigh,
Shake your head in defeat,
Because no matter how much you yell,
No matter how much you beat,
Those morons aren’t going to change anyway;

You think about,
Writing a motivational pep-talk,
Intertwined with your own exaggerated lore,
But haven't you done that before?

Finally, a Eureka moment strikes, 
You sit up straight, 
And start to furiously write,
About the writer's block that you're trying so hard to fight; 

Hey there, dear reader!

I'm really sorry about the long gap! 

The truth is, I really haven't been getting time to write. Even when I do sit down and try to write, I feel completely blank. 

And I think it happens to all of us - you have all the material ready, but you JUST. CANNOT. DO. IT. 

So today, after two failed attempts at two different blog posts, I decided to write about the thing that was plaguing me: this irritating block. 

So finally, that's done! And here I am, feeling relieved that I could finally write something

I really hope you like it. If you did or if you didn't, please let me know. 

Stay awesome as ever, 

Much love, 

Archie <3 




Thursday, July 14, 2016

Bittersweet

It's one of those evenings.

You are lying on your couch, utterly bored. You are staring at the patterns on the window made by the rain pouring outside. There's nothing else you can do right now, except stare

You have no will whatsoever to get up and reorganize your desk. You have no desire to even look at your phone and immerse yourself in the deliciously addictive cyber world. There is nothing you really want to do except lie on that couch of yours and start off with your favourite past-time: 

Thinking

You start off pondering over all the grand plans that you had formulated and think about how everything just ended up dramatically opposite to what you had imagined. You think about how crazy you used to be, so many years ago, and you think about how you have grown so much as a person. 

Then gradually, you start thinking about all the people you've encountered in your life. 

You think about your doting parents, how they mollycoddled you in your childhood. You think about your wild siblings and cousins, with whom you played with, all the time. You think about your crushes and you reminisce the delightfully sugary sweet imaginations that you had about them. Then slowly, your thoughts drift towards all the biting bullies, the enemies you made, with whom you never jelled. 

And then, your thoughts drift off to that person

There was a time when you used to think that the world began and ended with that person. There was a time when you thought you could share anything, absolutely anything with that individual. There was a time when that person was one of the best parts of your entire life.

Then, you don't know what happened but your equation with that person changed. 

Was it a silly argument that escalated into a gigantic fight? Or was it just Time playing its hand that wrenched you apart from one another? 

It's been so long since you thought about that person. You don't remember the details, like birthdays or favourite colours. Oh, and you even need to think a bit hard to even recollect how they looked like. But... 

You remember how strong your relationship was. You remember exactly how much you cared about that person and you remember that you were willing to do anything, absolutely anything for that person. 

Yet, you don't remember how things ended between the two of you. 

All of a sudden, you sit up straight on your couch. There's a sudden spark lit within you. Your mind's now buzzing with grand ideas of reconciliations and meet ups. 

Instantaneously, you pick up your phone. With eagerness akin to that of a child during Christmas, you tap the blue Facebook app button and type out that person's name.

There! 

You see that person - looking completely fresh and content. The Facebook profile showcases wonderful pictures of that person with family, friends set against exotic locations as backgrounds. That person's Facebook statuses suddenly remind you of how funny, how absolutely witty he/she was. 

You are about to tap the 'Send Friend Request' option when suddenly, a nagging thought enters your mind, a thought that directly addresses that person:

Why am I even bothering with this? It's not like I can waltz into your life and pretend that everything is hunky-dory when it clearly isn't! 

With a loud sigh, you press the lock button on your phone and throw it aside. All the sudden rush of energy that entered within you drains out quickly and all you are left with is a bittersweet mixture of nostalgic memories and hazy confusion. 

***

 Hello, dear reader! 

It's been a long time since I posted! Well, I have been very busy and un-creative - which is why I hardly posted here! 

The idea for this post came up two days ago, when I was thinking about two people that I had (for God knows what reason) stopped talking to. And on the same day, I was bugging one of my classmates with a really far-fetched scenario, to which he replied: 
I could literally text a random schoolmate, with whom I haven't talked to for 3-4 years and ask about his life I don't give a fuck about. That would be more interesting than this. 
Then all of a sudden, it clicked. 

Why not write about those people who you were really close to, at a point of time, and somehow, an incident happened (or nothing happened) which made you guys drift apart? 

Do you guys have such people in your lives too? 

Stay awesome as ever,

Much love,

Archie <3 

Sunday, June 26, 2016

The Clichéd ‘What I Learned From My Internship’ Post

It started off as an innocent call from one of my mom’s oldest friends. 

Let me stage the scene for you, dear reader. 

It was around ten in the night. I was deeply immersed in my studies, cramming for the exam the very next day. My mom was lying on the 2004-era sofa and chatting with her old friend. 

Then suddenly, my mom spoke to me, breaking me out of my reverie, “There’s a website called Internshala where you get to apply for internships during the summer.” 

“Oh, I have an account there,” was my reply and I plunged into my books, frantically trying to memorize the gist of the whole chapter. 

“You know, V* Aunty said that doing internships is a good thing for summer.” Mom said, completely used to my last minute jittery behaviour. “You’ll get certificates and work experience – which will help you for better job offers and post-grad options.” 

“That sounds cool,” I noted. “I’ll definitely apply for one this summer.” 

And thus, dear reader, began Archie’s Great Internship Saga, Summer 2016. 

By the second week of March, I had already applied to a bunch of companies, all alone – no help from anybody except for a few pointers from my parents and my uncle. 

Which is suffice to say that I got rejected by multiple companies that I’d applied to, including bigshot ones like Puma and TOI. 

But thankfully, I got into this amazing content writing company which, thank my lucky stars, did not force me to simply file the paperwork and make cutting chai for the employees.

Daily, I had to travel all the way to West Mumbai by Metro, punch my thumb on the machine next to the glass doors, go to my desk and get to work. Each day, I got to do new things and got to be mentored by some incredibly creative individuals. Plus, the office had its own library and all these super artsy, motivational quotes pasted on the walls. 

I mean, how COOL is that? 

So without further ado, allow me to tell you the some of the coolest things I’d learnt from my internship: 

1. Career Related Skills

As I worked for a content management company, I actually got exposed to some vital skills like digital marketing and content writing. 

Initially, I used to think: “Pfft… content writing is writing with a bunch of researched words, right. Blegh, it’s so easy. As for digital marketing? It is just promoting your product online, right? Jeez… this stuff is so, so easy.”

How very wrong I was.

Content writing and digital marketing are two really broad terms and you really need to take a lot of time to master both. 

Content writing means to research, sink your teeth deep into the topic and create your write up in such a way that is both creative and commercially viable. As for digital marketing, it involves tapping into the perspectives of the target consumers and writing something that is sure to make the product sound like the perfect solution for the said consumers!

Even the two months’ work I did as an intern wasn’t enough to know in detail as to what it really entailed! 

But thankfully, I did get to learn a lot and now, I am glad to say that I enjoy marketing. A lot.

2. Work Culture

One of the chief reasons why I decided to take up an internship (like most people) is to get exposed to the work atmosphere. 

Why, you may ask? 

Because unlike school and college, where you are with peers close to your age, in an office you’re supposed to interact with people with varied experiences and different age groups. 

Moreover, you also get exposed to how an organization is run and somehow, that just gets ingrained in your system. 

For instance, the company I worked for was pretty flexible when you thought about the timings and clothes. But when it came to working, they ensured that they made quality content that could be delivered dot on time! 

What I learnt from them was to be a blend of malleability and rigidity – which, I think, is sure to help me cope with the dynamic, ever-changing world out there.

3. Independence

I guess the coolest part about interning at an actual company was the fact that I finally got a shot at being independent – with an offer letter, contract, metro card and stipend. 

It all started with applying to different companies. Apart from a bit of guidance by my family members, I pretty much got to design my resumes and cover letters all my own. 

Then came the actual working process. In my company, unlike anywhere else I’ve been, I was never babied. I was given a task and I had the liberty to do it the way I liked (albeit factoring the company’s guidelines into my final work). 

Plus, travelling alone in the metro with all the working people of Mumbai during peak times somehow added to the thrill of being the Ultimate Urban Independent Chick. 

4. Responsibilities

With great independence, also comes a great sense of responsibility.

I’m glad to say that the company I worked for did not think that I was too unreliable and did dole out a fair share of responsibilities on me. 

And I am happier to say, that despite the plethora of mistakes that I did make and the crazy amount of time I took, I did fulfill them. 

In case you’re under the impression that internships are all about lazing around and doing nothing, then kindly get yourself out of that delusion.

Internships also are about hard work. It’s absolutely unacceptable to just take up a responsibility and evade it later! 

5. Networking

There is an actual difference between ‘networking’ and ‘making BFFs’. 

If you’re under the impression that you’ll make best friends during a proper professional internship, then you’re wrong. 

Like my best friend’s elder sister had said, and I quote, “Don’t expect to do an internship to gain friends.” 

Internships are places where you get to network. This means, you talk to people from varied backgrounds and gain insights about the kind of career you want to choose. This also means, you get to interact with people who mentor you and mould you into a better, more rounded personality.  

Luckily, in my company, I got to know people from different disciplines and let me tell you, I did get to learn a lot from each and every one of them. 

(As an added bonus, I also got to discuss a lot about Harry Potter and GoT with them during break times)

(I still haven't started with the GoT show, dear reader! :P )

***
Aaaaand this is how my desk looked like, on my last day! :) 
All in all, I would say that my internship was one of the best experiences I’ve ever had. I got mentored by some really talented people and I think (I hope, rather) I’ve developed into a better, more meticulous individual. Yeah, I did make a gigantic amount of mistakes, but what matters ultimately is that I did get to mature by a huge notch. 

Dear reader, I am really sorry for not having updated you with what was going on in my life. For the past three months, things have been really crazy. I’ve been pretty much on my toes and I barely had time for myself.

But now, I’m back, with hopes to entertain you with my neurotic rambling!

Stay awesome as ever,

Much love,

Archie <3

Friday, May 20, 2016

We Hit A Century - FINALLY!

All right. Ol' Archie is back from the dead.

I'm sorry for being such a tardy updater, dear reader.  

But things have been so strenuous lately! 

For one, my exams ended and a week later, my German class started and so did my stint as an intern at this super-cool content writing firm. 

So far, it's been a fantastic experience! I'm getting to learn so much about writing, research and marketing. Each day, I get to be a part of incredible meetings, discover new things and most importantly - write for some of the biggest companies in the country! 

Anyway, more on my internship later and onto this post! 

This is the 100th post on my blog. 100th.

A freaking century if you want to use a cricket jargon. 

Damn. 

It's been SO LONG. I started it waaaaaaaaay back in December 2011 and since then I've been pretty (somewhat) regular. 

And going through my old posts, I've realized that I have grown so much as an individual.

Five years ago, I was this little caterpillar who used to be pretty much overshadowed by everyone else except for her close-knit family and her gang of friends.

My school, as much as I love it and as much as I miss it, wasn't really a place where you could be the 'Student Of The Year'. It was pretty much an established system where only the kids who had been participating in extracurriculars since they were in kindergarten could shine in all the school-related activities.

For people like me - the ones who couldn't take part when they were too small - it was a difficult place to break out.

And I am not saying this as sour grapes. It's the case with the majority of schools out there. Many schools rarely give opportunities for kids to grow out and stick to the status quo!

In 2013, I switched schools. And that's when, dear reader, things started changing.

My junior college (as we call eleventh and twelfth grades here, in many Indian states) was this gigantic push out of my comfort zone.

From a class of forty kids, I joined a class of one hundred and twenty kids. And these kids, unlike the ones I'd grown up with, were super smart and super competitive.

Yet somehow, I got a chance to participate in multiple events which made me broaden my horizons by a great notch. Yes, there were times when I flubbed terribly and I felt like I could break down crying.

There would be times when I'd work hard for a particular subject or a competition and I'd end up not getting what I desired. There would be times I'd write blog posts with so much fervour and when I saw zero comments, I'd be shattered. There would actually be times when I saw everyone around me and I would feel, "Why on earth am I such a colossal failure?"

But you know what, dear reader?

All those things made me push myself harder and somehow, I ended up doing things that were a billion times more magical.

Take my blog, for instance.

I know, it's not the best blog in the whole wide world. And it certainly didn't start off as a great one, to begin with. There were so many times in the past that I didn't update it, so many times that I felt disheartened when I used to get no ideas and there were so many times when I felt I wasn't good enough.

But, over the years, I've learnt so much as to how to improve it and I constantly try to make it a better, happier place for anyone who reads it.

And I am so thankful to the multiple people who have supported me with this blog. I'd like to thank my family members, who have been extremely supportive towards me (and occasionally teased me as a "cool" blogger). I would also like to thank my closest friends, who have been so wonderful with their support and whose insights have resulted in some really crazy posts here! :P

But most of all, I am really thankful to you, dear reader, for reading this blog and making me believe in myself to be a better person!

With this, I conclude my confusing post and will be back soon!

Stay awesome as ever,

Much love,

Archie <3